I also don’t want him getting trust issues either if we’re not being straightforward. I always just play dumb and say something like “I don’t know, I’ve never seen the elf move so I don’t know how it moves.” I don’t like lying, but also 5 seems a bit young to lose the “magic”? He’s also a very serious 5 year old who acts older than his years and has some anxiety issues and if this would be something fun for him that could help him do more regular little kid stuff I don’t want to take it away from him. Last year when I told him about st Nicholas’ day and the whole candy in the shoe thing he was like “ but how does the candy really get in there? I think maybe the parents put it in there because I know magic isn’t real.” He’s started saying the same thing about Santa/Easter bunny/tooth fairy/elf on the shelf. But he keeps asking us to tell the truth about it. We never made a big deal out of it, it was just sort of a side note. However, our 5 year old is very logical/analytical and has doubted it since he was like ¾. My husband really wanted to do the Santa thing so I kind of reluctantly was on board. They just seemed to enjoy the holidays more than I did. I’m not a big fan of telling kids that Santa (or tooth fairy, Easter bunny etc) is real, but my parents were pretty blunt about it all and as a kid I really wished I had believed in that stuff because I was jealous of other kids who did. submitted by /u/TrumpetBiscuitPawsįrom Reddit Parenting - For those with kids of any age! We are white and non religious, in case that affects the answers, which I guess it might. Any help navigating this would be appreciated. She’s realising that humans can be awful to each other and it’s heart breaking. But she is sad about the suffering and that suffering was and is real. I try to reassure her that if she treats people well and stands up for those who need it then she’s all good. I’m thinking yes, that must have happened. She’s keeps saying things like “But what if they took the Daddys or the Mummys and their kids never saw them again”. She’s so sad about the injustice of the world, now and in past. Since then she’s been upset about slavery and racism often. Goes quiet in the back for a while and then I hear sobbing. OK so Buffalo Soldier by Bob Marley comes on in the car, 8yo asks what it’s about, I explain what I know. For more ideas about sushi,visit our site. At least one will not be taken by surprise. Whilst one may not be pleased with the conduct of others, at least the tradition organizes the conduct of other's so that at the very least there is a comfort with predictability - knowing what may be coming, whether wanted or not. Whatever else is going on, whatever else is happening, many people can count on the family tradition to offer respite from the storm of life and a sense of belonging and harbour from life's storms.Įven in view of family conflict, for many the family traditions, dictating roles, rules and responsibilities, help structure even fractured relationships. The family tradition provides for a sense of safety, familiarity and certainty. For these persons there is a comfort in the family tradition. There is an inevitability with family traditions and just like the apple that must fall to earth, so too do family members feel the tug of their traditions.įor many persons the anticipation of the family tradition is met positively, with warmth and acceptance.
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